Abuse of Power is the Problem
Meritocracy and Equality is
the Answer
Sexual harassment and assault
often take place when men in positions of power and authority come to believe
that their lofty position entitles them to special treatment and physical
pleasure from subordinate women. This behavior is just plain wrong, no matter
what other positive attributes the powerful possess or the good works they have
performed.
In recent weeks, many men in
powerful positions have been brought to task by women who found the strength to
come forward with descriptions of their abuse and the impacts it has had on
their lives and careers. We see it in media celebrities like Matt Lauer of NBC
and Garrison Keillor of Prairie Home Companion fame at Minnesota Public Radio.
We see it in the halls of Congress from the likes of Rep. John Conyers (D.
Mich) and Sen. Al Franken (D. Minn). We even see it in the White House from the
most powerful men in our government in Pres. Bill Clinton and Pres. Donald
Trump. We see it in political races from those like Judge Roy Moore (R. Ala)
and others too numerous to mention.
Some of the men have come
clean, admitting their transgressions and seeking redemption through admission
and going into self-reflective treatment. Some have been fired by their
superiors who raced to adopt zero tolerance policies to avoid further corporate
embarrassment and the litigation that often follows disclosure of inappropriate
and unacceptable behavior. Others have maintained their innocence, even in the
face of numerous accusers with clear evidence of abuse, and kept their
positions, at least temporarily.
The media and many activists
focus on the sexual nature of the conduct, seeking to draw attention from the
salacious. What these critics miss, distracted by the sexual taboos, is the
whole point of the behavior. The point is not sexual stimulation and pleasure.
The point of the bad behavior is the misguided entitlement the abusers believe
is theirs by divine right and their power to make or break the careers of those
below them in stature.
Women seeking a seat at the
table of authority in workplaces dominated by these men do not get to compete
with their male colleagues based on talent, intellect or ability. All too
often, they are convinced that the only path to advancement and success winds
through the bedroom. They all too often find that path never leads to the table
or the Board Room, just to the boudoir.
These abuses of power and
authority are rarely addressed as the abuses of those attributes, but merely as
inappropriate sexual behavior. Until the roots of male power over women are
exposed, examined and redefined, these abuses will continue unabated. We will
continue to hear from those few important women who dare to come forward and
challenge the power structure, but nothing will change.
What these latest revelations
are calling for is the creation of a true meritocracy in the workplace and at
home.
We need a world where
children are taught that they will find success, not based upon which genital
set up they have under their clothes, but on what is between their ears and how
they are able to put it to productive use. Our sons and daughters must be
taught to respect one another and that no one, under any circumstances, is
intrinsically superior to anyone else. The motto must be that we all bring
value to the discussion and have the right to express our feelings freely.
Workplace cultures need
redefinition along the same lines. It is no longer acceptable for men to become
leaders just because they are men. Male generated ideas are no more valuable or
important than female ideas. “Mansplaining” that puts women down with
patronizing commentary needs to go. Expectations that women in the office are
automatically the ones who make the coffee or clean the bathrooms or just take
care of the menial tasks have no place in the workplace. It is long past time
when women get paid less for the same work done by a male colleague.
The days of Ozzie and Harriet
at home are over as well. Life at home has changed, especially since few
households can survive on just one income. The workload there needs to be
redefined and redistributed so that no one feels like they are carrying the
whole load with the kids, the cooking, the cleaning and the dog. No man is ever
entitled to sex, just because of his gender or the size of his paycheck.
If we truly want to see an
end to sexual harassment and assault by men in power, we need to rebalance the
distribution of power so that men and women are equal partners in all the
efforts we take together.
Waring Fincke is a retired
attorney and serves as a guardian for the elderly and disabled.